How Putting an End to 4 Common Life-Draining Parenting Practices Can Powerfully Shift a Family from Conflict to Connection
Create your parent-digm shift.
S.T.O.P!
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It’s one of the most overused words everywhere: STOP!
Parents telling kids to stop; siblings yelling at each other to stop; teachers telling students to stop; kids snapping back at parents to stop, too.
Stop...what, exactly?
We want something to stop, and, when pressed to fill in the blank, many of us suppose that we simply want “peace.” Yet, the process by which think we might attain it tends to bring about the opposite outcome: Conflict. Stress. Chaos. Resentment. Shame. Disconnect. This is often because the process is rife with our anxiety, fear, old stories and shame. We can’t parent pre-emptively, proactively or productively when we are in defense. STOP is a word that can often come from that defense, and we have practiced using it in times of stress, distress and the control that ensues from those internal states.
If we, on the other hand, could stop 4 common practices -- S.T.O.P. Suppressing, Threatening, Overpowering and Presuming -- we may be gratefully surprised to see a powerful and positive shift in ourselves, our children, and naturally, in and our relationships.
A shift with staying power. A STOP that lets us GO.
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